For a couple of weeks now, I have been thinking about the subject of "soul ties." A friend suggested I may need to break 'soul ties' with my husband Roger and recommended a book titled Breaking Unhealthy Soul Ties by Bill and Sue Banks. I looked the book up on Amazon and decided not to purchase it at this time since my budget won't allow for that purchase right now. Instead, I pulled out a very good book I've already read about this subject. I am going to use some quotes from this book and give you a short synopsis of what I feel God showed me today about unhealthy soul ties between husband and wife. These kinds of ties can be established in any relationship but for your sakes I will stick to the things I felt God showed me concerning marital soul ties.
The book I am speaking of is by Liberty Savard entitled Breaking the Power. I had read her book Shattering Strongholds when I found this second book she authored was on sale and purchased it also. The part of this book I have been most interested in has been the chapters on wrong agreements or 'soul ties.'
When God created man, He breathed life (or spirit) into His body. The spirit and soul of a man are completely different entities. Our spirit belongs to God and our soul belongs to man. Our spirits are God-conscious and our soul is self-conscious. So then being a spirit, having a soul (mind, will and emotions) and living in a physical body, we must realize that it is through our soul that there is the connection or the control tower between the natural world of our body and the spiritual world or the supernatural. When our soul (mind, will and emotions) is unsurrendered to God, it chooses which world we will most identify with.
Recognizing this great gift God has given us in our soul and all the ability in our souls to organize, implement, plan, and manage the things God put man in charge of in the earth, Satan has always initiated his works through our unsurrendered souls.
"Sin is the natural outcome of any "dialogue" between the unsurrendered soul and the devil." (p 148)
In the fall, Adam's spirit suffered separation from God and the power in his soul to have the dominion God had given him was also surrendered. We can see the misuse of this power in the paranormal today such as psychic, divination and mental telepathy. When this soul power is surrendered to God we are able to do the supernatural works of God that He created us to do in the earth.
Our unsurrendered souls can be deceived by something that "seems right to our souls." Only by knowing how to separate between the soul and the spirit can we discern the truth. In Hebrews 4 it says of the Word of God, "it is sharper than any two edged sword , penetrating to the dividing line of the breath of life [soul] and [the immortal] spirit..." It is in our reading, hearing and receiving by the Holy Spirit the Word that will bring truth and not deception that any soul power will be revealed to us.
There are even those in the body of Christ who are aware of the soul power that is to be had when others come into wrong agreement with them. We, as God's people are called to be of one spirit, with husbands and wives also being one in the flesh. "No one is called to be one in soul. There is no such thing as a good soul-tie." (p. 155
Soul ties are the product of a wrong agreement between individuals. Wrong agreements usually appear to hold a promise of a benefit for those involved. Even if one person feels forced or threatened into entering this agreement so that something else can be avoided (embarassment, loss of status, etc... )may seem to be the 'benefit' of this kind of soul tie. Acceptance and approval may be seemingly positive benefits of establishing a soul tie.
Think of women who have lived in abusive relationships and been unable to remove themselves from dangerous situtations. They say they want to come out of it and may even try to do so, but there is something powerful that compels them to return to the situation repeatedly. The soul of the abusive man being dominant and exercising control through an unhealthy soul tie exerts such influence she is unable to extricate herself from the abuse.
These same women are capable of having extremely strong soulish manipulation through a non-physical means such as emotional and mental coercion.These codependent types of behaviors are an attempt to get her unmet needs met. Both persons are seeking something from the relationship in an unhealthy and self-destructive way.
"Love based in spiritual unity continues to see the gift in the other person when the gift wrapping begins to fray and wrinkle. The soul and the body express marital love, too, but the spiritual union between husband and wife is the only thing that can be counted on never to change." (p.170)
"Soul ties cause a man and woman to look to each other for assurance, healing, support, sustenance, answers, and guidance before going to God. It is an issue of an unfulfilled soul in a man or woman that prompts the words, 'I don't love you anymore.' Or 'I can't stand you anymore, and I want you out of my life.' These words come from an unsurrendered soul's bitterness and resentment that its expectations and needs have not been fulfilled and met." (p. 171_
In our spirit man, all our needs are met in Jesus Christ. The entire word of God is the story of how He came to be all and to fill all with His fullness. It is in our unsurrendered souls where we have strongholds and unmet needs and unfulfilled expectations. Soul ties must be broken in those areas in order that we might be able to shatter those strongholds and "receive" the fullness of Christ's love and all He has for each of us.
I spent some time today praying the prayer for the breaking of soul ties in my relationship with Roger. I hope this summary of all I read in Liberty's book will spur you on to think of how 'soul ties' may be operating in your relationship with your husband (or others). I pray God will show each of us the unsurrendered emotions of anger, bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness and the fears that torment us in our minds and thoughts daily. As we begin to surrender these illusions of control and bind ourselves to His truth and His word, may we all come to the fullness of Christ and exercise the dominion and power He created for us to have in the earth today.
If you are interested in the writings of Liberty Savard, she has a web site. Simply Google her name and you will find it. You will find her site to be very helpful.
